Infidelity Surveillance Miami Beach South Beach
Infidelity can shatter even the strongest relationship, leaving behind feelings of betrayal, guilt, and anger. For the one-quarter of married couples who have suffered this breach of loyalty, according to the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy, overcoming those feelings can be extremely difficult.
But with the support of family, friends, a good therapist, and each other, it is possible for a couple to put the cloud of an affair behind them, and in some cases, emerge as a stronger unit.
For others, an affair is too heavy a weight for a relationship to bear, and parting ways may be the only answer. But before a fighting couple both head for the door, there are steps that can be taken that might help the relationship get on the track to healing. Experts tell why someone might have an affair, how an affair can be overcome, and how to know when it's time to call it quits.
Whatever the reason for the affair, the effect infidelity has on a relationship is devastating.
Nothing rocks a person's sense of self, trust, and marriage more than infidelity. Infidelity leaves people questioning their sanity, as well as everything they believe to be true about their spouse, and about the viability of their marriage. Infidelity is crippling.
People find themselves crying a lot, not being able to concentrate, being upset, and feeling depressed.
The suspicion of an infidelity raises many questions which make the affected partner of a marriage ask for help, what is known by investigators as surveillance is a common technique implemented in these cases of infidelity.
When law enforcement agencies and government entities want to gather information about a crime, detect or prevent crime, or investigate crimes that have already taken place, they use surveillance. Surveillance is defined as conducting close observations of an individual or a group.
Techniques for Conducting Surveillance
One of the most common and oldest techniques to surveillance is to actually follow and watch the individual. Agents are known to sit near the homes of suspects and document when they are home and when they leave. This direct form of surveillance establishes a suspect's daily routine, but the downfall is that it requires many man hours.
Alternatively, instead of using law enforcement agents to follow suspects, agencies have begun to rely on technology to complete surveillance. There are two other techniques known as pre-constructive and reconstructive surveillance.
Pre-constructive surveillance is used to watch certain areas using closed circuit television (CCTV) cameras that record and transmit to local police agencies. The cameras tape the actions and events in a certain area and serve as the law enforcement's eyes and ears.
Pre-constructive surveillance can be used to establish which individuals frequently are in the area.
Sarah was identified in several of the CCTVs throughout the area where the car break-ins were taking place. The officers watched the recordings on the CCTVs to complete surveillance of the area and identify subjects who were seen often. The police used pre-constructive surveillance techniques and technology in this instance.
Reconstructive surveillance, in contrast, uses evidence left behind at a crime scene to reconstruct events that have taken place. Using fingerprint powder, law enforcement was able to identify Sarah by the fingerprints she left in the cars she broke into. She was not actually seen entering all the vehicles, but the fingerprints and possible DNA she left behind gave the law enforcement team the ability to use reconstructive surveillance.
Despite popular belief, most lying and cheating does not get discovered because a suspicious spouse is good at interrogating a partner (e.g., Where were you? Who were you with?).
Typically, spouses in infidelity process get caught in one of two ways:
Accidental Discovery:
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In most cases, deception and infidelity are uncovered by mistake. A husband or wife decides to come home from work early, a third party inadvertently reveals the truth, an unpaid parking ticket reveals a spouse’s true whereabouts, an e-mail exchange is accidentally sent to the wrong person, and so on.
Monitoring a Spouse:
Surveillance, by comparison, is an attempt to discover the truth by monitoring a spouse’s behavior. If you’re dealing with a lying and/or spouse in an infidelity, some type of surveillance is almost always needed.
While monitoring a spouse tends to be the most effective way to find what is going on in a relationship, spying on a spouse can also cause problems. Is it ethical to monitor a husband or wife without his or her knowledge?
On the other hand, if you’re dealing with a lying and/or partner in an infidelity relation, how do you address the problem to get the truth out in the open? Fixing problems require a full accounting and acknowledgment of the issues involved.
Practical Tips for Catching Lying and an infidelity relation:
Keep a journal of your spouse’s reported activities. Write down the times, dates, places, other people involved, excuses given, etc. Your journal will become invaluable as you compare what’s said with phone bills, credit card statements, ATM withdrawals, talk to other people, etc. A spouse involved in an infidelity is likely to change his or her story, or question your memory, so keeping a record of everything is critical.
Keep track of all incoming phone calls. Record the time and number of all calls.
Plan a surprise visit to work, or come home at unexpected times, or make announcements about having to work late, but then come home early, etc.
Keep track of your spouse’s mileage, receipts, credit card statements, ATM withdrawals, phone records, etc.
If you can, check your spouse’s call log. Look for an unusual amount of phone calls. Keep in mind that spouses involved in an infidelity often store their lover’s phone number under someone else’s name: a friend, a co-worker, etc.
You can also purchase surveillance equipment (hidden cameras and voice activated recorders) or download computer monitoring software (keylogger) which will make it easier for you to monitor your spouse’s activities. Using such equipment, however, can raise some legal issues.
Never confront your spouse until you’re certain that you have enough evidence to make your case. And never reveal all of your evidence at once. Most spouses involved in an infidelity will try to concoct a story to fit the evidence presented.
But if you withhold some evidence, and let your spouse create a story, it gives you the opportunity to use the remaining evidence as leverage. And if you strategically withhold evidence, your spouse will start to question exactly how much you know, increasing the odds that he or she will tell you the truth.
Overall, if you find anything suspicious, do not confront your spouse until you’re certain that you have enough evidence to get a confession.
Think for a minute about how your spouse might try to dismiss your accusations (e.g., we were just joking around, I was just flirting, it was a misunderstanding, we are just friends, nothing happened, etc.). If you can anticipate how your spouse is likely to respond, you can try to gather the evidence you need to counter what he or she says.
Resources and Information for Catching a Lying, Cheating Husband or Wife:
Computer Monitoring Software allows you to see everything your spouse does online. Establishes a record of all online activities.
GPS Tracking Devices for Infidelity: purchase a global positioning satellite device which can track a vehicle’s exact location 24 hours a day.
Cell Phone Monitoring Applications: monitors your spouse’s cell phone activity.
Search for a Spouse’s Online Profiles: check to see if your spouse has a hidden online profile.
Forensic Infidelity Tests: test samples of your spouse’s clothing for biological evidence of an infidelity.
Home Surveillance Equipment: hidden cameras and voice-activated recording devices can be purchased in every shape and size imaginable.
Comprehensive Background Checks: do you think your boyfriend or girlfriend is lying to you about the past? A background check can reveal a lot about a person’s past.
Private Investigators: hiring a licensed investigator is the quickest and most effective way to discover the truth, he or she will probably implement surveillance techniques to find out the situation.
In most cases, the options listed above are very effective when trying to discover the truth about a spouse involved in an infidelity. If, however, none of these options work for you, several more are provided below. Hopefully, you can find a technique that will work for your specific situation.
Using Recording Devices for Surveillance
While using recording devices is an effective way to catch a spouse in an infidelity relation, it is important to use such devices in accordance with existing law.
Recording devices can range from computer monitoring software to hidden cameras and recorders to GPS tracking devices.
Several issues to consider when using any of these recording devices:
Legal to Purchase: It is LEGAL to purchase such devices. But once you purchase such equipment, you are responsible for using it in accordance with both federal and state law.
Ownership Matters: It is LEGAL to install recording devices on the property which you own. You cannot install such devices on other people’s property.
Notification/Consent: Depending on the type of device being used and the state in which you live, notification or consent that a recording device has been installed may be required.
To be on the safe side, if you buy some type of recording equipment, check the manufacturer’s policy about using the device, or contact an attorney who is familiar with your federal and local laws and regulations.
Is it Ethical to Monitor a Spouse involved in an infidelity?
Broadly speaking, ethics involves how people should treat each other. From an ethical perspective, spying or doing surveillance on a spouse is rarely the right thing to do.
People have expectations about how their romantic partners should behave, including expectations for privacy as well as honesty. Furthermore, spying or put under surveillance on a spouse may be illegal when surveillance equipment is used in a way which violates federal and state laws.
If you want to obtain information about your spouse involved in an infidelity, the most ethical way to do so is by simply asking questions. Asking questions is an honest and straightforward way to discover the truth. Unfortunately, though, asking questions is not always effective.
Surveillance, on the other hand, is the most effective way to find out what is going on.
Essentially, what is effective is unethical, and what is ethical is often counterproductive. How to resolve this dilemma?
If you spy or put under surveillance on your spouse suspected of an infidelity relation and actually discover that he or she is cheating, this does not necessarily make spying the right thing to do. But at least the discovery exposes the truth and brings hidden problems to the surface. It's impossible to fix problems until they are acknowledged.
If, however, you spy or put under surveillance and discover nothing, well, you may feel reassured, but you’ve violated your partner’s trust. Now you have become the person in the relationship who has something to hide.
Simply put, there are no easy answers.
Most people want to know the truth, but in reality, effectively getting at the truth usually involves some form of surveillance or careful observation.
If you suspect infidelity, hiring a private investigator is the most effective way of discovering the truth. This is especially so if your spouse knows you are suspicious and is trying to hide the truth.
Private investigators are licensed by the state to engage in surveillance. More importantly, private detectives are knowledgeable about the surveillance techniques which are legal to use in the area where you reside.
If you feel that your situation may be heading toward divorce, hiring a private investigator is a smart thing to do.
When hiring a Private Investigator, it is important to select someone who specializes in infidelity investigations.
Private investigators are licensed by the state to gather information and engage in surveillance. Private investigators understand what is permitted under state law. If the potential for legal proceedings exists (e.g., divorce, child custody, alimony, etc.), hiring a private investigator can help minimize your risk. Many people have obtained useful information about a spouse on their own but were unable to use the information because of how it was obtained. Not only does hiring a private investigator help to minimize the risk of information being thrown out during legal procedures, but in most cases, PIs are allowed to testify on your behalf. And if negative information about your spouse is going to come out, it is usually beneficial to have a third party present the information; it will seem less biased and more credible.
Private Investigators are also better at collecting information because of their training, experience, and their lack of emotional involvement. Many people who try to catch a cheating spouse on their own, have a difficult time knowing what to look for or they become too upset while the process unfolds. We have heard from many people who have wasted months of their time trying to figure out if their spouse is cheating, but were unable to do so because they lack the investigative skills and tools which are needed. And people also tend to become too emotionally volatile when investigating their own spouse. People have a difficult time NOT confronting their spouse before they discover the full extent of the betrayal that occurred. Professional investigators simply have the added advantage of knowing how to investigate a spouse in a more objective manner.
At the Wasser Agency, we have all the tools to help you carry out any investigation, especially surveillance on your spouse involved in an infidelity. We have the best prepared and experienced investigators, lay all on our hands and we will give you the right answers. We are located in Miami, Beach/South Beach FL, contact us.